4 Ways to Keep Bad Dreams from Ruining Your Kid’s Day

I dreamed that my husband didn’t recognize me. We were the same age we are now and I tapped him on the shoulder. He turned and I went in for a kiss and he recoiled, politely and with great care. And then he smiled at me, pried my fingers off his arm, and turned back to whatever faceless person he had been talking to. It was that smile that did it. It’s the smile he

On Regret and Old Age. (Sunday Thoughts Link Up #46)

PHILIPPIANS 3:13   “Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” 1 JOHN 1:9  “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” Most of

Raise Your Hand if You Don’t Like Scary Movies

The first scary movie I ever saw was “Jaws”. It was a July afternoon in Oklahoma, and I was visiting my cousins. I don’t ever remember a hotter summer than that one. The heat rose off the roads in waves and the tar that zigzagged over the cracks in the sidewalks grew soft and stuck to our flip flops. By noon, we retreated indoors, sunburned and tired from running through the sprinklers and hungry for

Three Brilliant Analogies to Guide Your Complex Modern Marriage

So, marriage. Just the sound of it rings heavy, doesn’t it? The weight of the two syllables feels lofty with ideals. We want self-enlightenment and security and passion and magic and connection. But then there’s just so much pressure to get it right and not screw it up before we even get started. Then we spend a lifetime trying to mold ourselves and our partner into the coupling we envisioned. It seemed simpler before, back

On Perseverance and Middle Age. (Sunday Thoughts Link Up #45)

GALATIANS 6:9 9 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.  I’m approaching middle age…tiptoeing up and peering under the door and wondering over it. But, chances are, when the door swings open it’s going to look a lot like where I’m standing now. Identical living room and life with different messes in the middle. People talk about middle age like

How Occam’s Razor Revolutionized My Parenting

Occam’s razor is the philosophical theory of parsimony. In Latin it reads, “pluralitas non est ponenda sine necessitate,” which loosely translates to, “don’t assume anything extra must exist.” It is, as William of Occam put it, to take a razor to the problem and shave off the unnecessary bits. In short, keep it simple. Here’s an example: If you’re in the house by yourself, and you hear the creak of a door, it’s probably not

Why a Simple Walk is the Brain and Body Boost You Need

–Every Thanksgiving, my dad would push the family out the door right after the feast when any normal human would burp and take a nap. He’d grab his jacket from the hook on the wall, clap his hands together, and issue the decree we all knew was coming, “Okay, time for a walk!” There was no use fighting it. Only the elderly got a pass. No one would get pie until we’d done our time

The Hallelujah Moments

My five-year old came home with dirt on his nose – one long dark swipe down the side, like he’d spent his afternoon up a chimney. His dad had taken him to the park with his twin brother and sister. Early October afternoons look a lot like summer ones here, hot and muggy with the whine of insects, but the fact that you know cold weather is coming propels you out the door. It puts

On Pleasure. (Sunday Thoughts Link Up #44)

ECCLESIASTES 3:12-13 12 I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. 13 That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God. After Solomon rants and raves over the meaninglessness of the world as only a man with all the wealth and success in the world can, God soothes his soul enough for him to peek behind the

To Gain Perspective, Adapt These 5 Work-Related Tips to Your Parenting

You’ve been working on a project for so long that it no longer makes sense. It no longer feels unique or revolutionary or even coherent. The brilliant idea that got you going in the first place now sounds inane. How did anyone think you were ever smart? What is true in the workplace is true in parenting too. In the beginning, you’re running on endorphins and noble statutes that you feel certain will become the