As one who finds \u201cself-care\u201d a fluffy word that ought to be in quotes and accompanied with an eye roll, this was a bigger moment than it sounds. The article reviews a study that asked 600 people to journal, a practice I have never been able to make work for me.<\/p>\n
No matter how I start it \u201cDear diary,\u201d \u201cDate\/Time\/Year\u201d, \u201c\u2026\u201d it always makes me feel sixteen and angsty, the opposite of the therapeutic effect I\u2019m shooting for. So, I was a skeptic from the start. But this study instructed the participants to write about a past event in detail and then they analyzed the results.<\/p>\n
Those who were able to flip this memory into something more meaningful than a simple rehashing, a bland day in the life, all fell into the same pattern. They went universal. They wrote with that big old second person \u201cyou\u201d and \u201cwe\u201d and \u201cus\u201d. When written in this way, lined and lettered with aphorisms and couched in a collectiveness that brought the experience out from the shadow of their little story and into the wide world, they were able to make it mean more<\/i>.<\/p>\n
So, I gave it a whirl with a distant horrific memory of puking purple grape juice on the<\/i> cutest<\/i> boy<\/i> in fifth grade. Suddenly, it became a little less\u2026nauseating\u2026when placed with all the other puking elementary schoolers in the world. Go me.<\/p>\n
So maybe I\u2019m going to be journaling after all. I’m thinking<\/a> that this is why \u201cThis is Us\u201d is a hit show. Yes, this is<\/i> us. Best of all, maybe this is also the trick to parenting. If I can talk my daughter through her teenage years with a mix of personal anecdotes: \u201cYes, those shorts are too tight. Let me tell you what happened to me when I tried to bend over in junior high in a pair just like that,\u201d and general aphorisms, \u201cyou never know who else is feeling lonely at the lunch table,\u201d then we might just make it through.<\/p>\n Maybe I can help her reframe her life enough with the power of this idea and she will remember she is not alone, that there are millions of \u201cdear diary\u201d entries much like hers, and that\u2019s a good thing. Because, maybe it\u2019s true like the article stated, \u201cit\u2019s comforting to remind yourself that other people have been, and will continue to be, where you are right now.\u201d<\/p>\n In light of this shift in semantics and mindset, here are my top 5 aphorisms worth pinning to your parenting profile. Use them, rinse, and repeat:<\/p>\n Inner strength cannot be overstated in parenting. That\u2019s the muscle I want my kids to work the most. Self-confidence is just that, something that originates within and Eleanor Roosevelt was one of the strongest women to take up the mantle of First Lady. I want my children to know that they have earned the right to take up space in this world simply by being themselves and no one can diminish that.<\/p>\n The best memories I have of childhood are not trips to Disneyland or five-star hotels or even epic Christmases. They are Saturday mornings with blueberry cinnamon rolls and afternoons picking strawberries from the garden and evenings falling asleep wrapped in a towel at the beach. It\u2019s a shift in mindset to train yourself not to live only for the big stuff, to instead find satisfaction in the small, steady miracles of everyday life.<\/p>\n His rhymes have reason. Dr. Seuss was not just a writer of catchy children\u2019s book, he was also an activist. He cared, an awful lot, about an awful lot. I want my children to care \u2013 to have views that they are willing to stand behind despite the tide of public opinion. I want them to discern what is worth fighting for and then fight for it because they believe it will make a difference and the world can change for the better.<\/p>\n To view the world from another person\u2019s perspective is the key to compassion, sympathy, and empathy. It\u2019s how we learn to love others well and not just for our own purposes. Atticus taught Scout to love this way in \u201cTo Kill A Mockingbird\u201d and that is what I want for my children.<\/p>\n If I could coin an aphorism, it would be: \u201cChannel Mother Teresa in all things.\u201d She devoted her life to serving others, to those who had nothing she gave everything. It\u2019s easy to be kind and good when everyone is watching \u2013 in the big things where recognition is part of the deal.<\/p>\n Of course, kids are going to be good when the teacher is standing right in front of them, ready to dole out praise or punishment. I also want my children to befriend the kid who\u2019s alone on the playground, or tell the truth when a lie would be easier, or listen rather than talk when someone needs to share. Faithfulness in the little stuff goes a long way in making a good heart.<\/p>\n We all have our sayings that bring us comfort and truth. We all search for the universal connections to understand our experiences so that we can be part of the whole, a piece of the puzzle. Use these aphorisms or coin your own and let them be part of the light by which your children steer their lives.<\/p>\n *This article originally appeared in Parent.co<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n Save<\/span><\/p>\n Save<\/span><\/p>\n Save<\/span><\/p>\n Save<\/span><\/p>\n Save<\/span><\/p>\n Save<\/span><\/p>\n Save<\/span><\/p>\n Save<\/span><\/p>\n Save<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" When I read New York Magazine\u2019s article on the storytelling technique that could flip your life around with a little wordplay, I tried it and fell in love with myself\u2026just a little bit. As one who finds \u201cself-care\u201d a fluffy word that ought to be in quotes and accompanied with an eye roll, this was a bigger moment than it sounds. 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\u201cRemember, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.\u201d\u00a0<\/strong>
\n \u2013 Eleanor Roosevelt.\u00a0<\/i><\/strong><\/h1>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n
\u201cEnjoy the little things in life, for one day you`ll look back and realize they were big things.\u201d
\n\u2013\u00a0Kurt Vonnegut<\/i><\/strong><\/h1>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n
\u201cUnless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better, it\u2019s not.\u201d \u2013\u00a0Dr. Seuss<\/i>\u00a0<\/strong><\/h1>\n<\/blockquote>\n
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\u201cYou never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view \u2013 until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.\u201d \u2013\u00a0Atticus Finch<\/i><\/strong><\/h1>\n<\/blockquote>\n
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\u201c<\/strong>Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.\u201d<\/strong> \u2013\u00a0Mother Teresa<\/strong><\/em><\/h1>\n<\/blockquote>\n
What’s your favorite quote to live by?<\/strong><\/h2>\n