6 Science-Backed Reasons to Expose Your Kids to Diversity

We all know diversity is a good thing. We all know it’s a fight worth the undertaking to expose our children to different religions, races, disabilities, thinkers. What would the world be if Pollock tried to paint like Renoir? Or if school only taught science? Or every kid spoke the same language? Unfortunately, it’s getting harder to fight the good fight. So if you’re a parent out there in the midst of it, here’s a

Three Embryos Remain: Why I Will Never Have a Last Child

I haven’t talked much about the “how” part of how we got Charlie and the twins. Most people don’t quite understand all that goes in to IVF…the science or the physical, emotional and spiritual tolls. I know I didn’t. We were knee deep in it before we realized the kind of decisions we’d be called to make. For most people, “when to have the last baby” is relatively straightforward. You waver, for sure, and you

The Competitive Sport of Mothering (Sunday Thoughts #11)

GENESIS 29:16-18 16 Now Laban had two daughters; the name of the older was Leah, and the name of the younger was Rachel. 17 Leah had weak eyes, but Rachel had a lovely figure and was beautiful. 18 Jacob was in love with Rachel and said, “I’ll work for you seven years in return for your younger daughter Rachel.” GENESIS 29:22-25 22 So Laban brought together all the people of the place and gave a feast.

When the Parent is the Bully

This happened. It shouldn’t have. But it did. As the parent of a special needs child, you brace yourself for the bullying. Difference draws attention and not all of that attention is positive. But I did not expect it at the grocery store with my son and from another mother. I did not handle it well. I did not advocate as I should have. Shock can throw you off your game. But I’m sharing now

Here’s Why We All Love “This is Us”

It’s true. I’m an addict. I’m a streaming Hulu “This is Us” addict and I don’t care. And it’s not just because I’m a mom of multiples. It’s SO MUCH MORE than that. I’ve got a theory about the “This is Us” paradox and I’m thinking out loud about it on Her View From Home.   Save Save Save

Tricks of the (Special Needs) Trade

Last week I collectively spent three hours on the phone with the office of Charlie’s geneticist. It was over the space of four phone calls with an average hold time of twenty minutes each. This gave me plenty of time to think. It was a snafu on their part that caused the time suckage. Someone on their end forgot to schedule the quarterly ultrasounds. Therefore, we had an appointment with the doctor…and nothing to talk

The Writing Life

The Writing Life If Week in Review is a list of accomplishments, all mine go in the writing category. Here’s a list of the articles that came out last week from yours truly!   5 Ways to Date Your Spouse Without Leaving the House in Her View From Home.  (Let us all think back eons ago to Valentine’s Day for this one.)                   To the Man Who

The Cushion (Sunday Thoughts #10)

MATTHEW 19:16-22, 26 16 Just then a man came up to Jesus and asked, “Teacher, what good thing must I do to get eternal life?” 17 “Why do you ask me about what is good?” Jesus replied. “There is only One who is good. If you want to enter life, keep the commandments.”  18 “Which ones?” he inquired. Jesus replied, “‘You shall not murder, you shall not commit adultery, you shall not steal, you shall not give false

Roll with It…Adaptive Living

They say animals adapt to their environment. The butterfly can change its wings to match the foliage. The rabbit can freeze faster than the hounds can hunt. It’s adapt or perish. When I say adapt, I’m not talking metaphysical here. For us it’s literal. Here’s a list of the “adaptive devices” Charlie uses on the regular: Compression suit (picture old lady socks, the kind they recommend for long international flights, only as a full body suit. Spanx